It can feel like bringing up consent with your partner can be a total mood killer. But speaking about consent doesn’t need to be awkward. Use your own language but make sure you’re checking in with your partner frequently, and they are checking in with you. It’s everyone’s right to feel safe, comfortable and respected in sexual relationships.
We’ve compiled a few ways for how to make this really important conversation less of a buzzkill to make your sexy time consensual and great!
Talking about consent is a great way to talk about stuff you’d like to do together – think of it as foreplay as well as a way to keep checking in with your partner during sex to make sure you’re both having a good time
It feels so good when you do ……, do you want to do that now?
I think it’s hot when we do………, should we do that now?
Can I kiss you here?
Or just get to the point:
Do you want to have sex? Or would you like to wait?
Can I kiss you?
Can I do ………… with you?
Can I take this off?
Do you want to do this?
And while you’re in the heat of the moment,
Do you want me to stop doing this?
Are you feeling ok with me doing this?
Do you want me to keep going?
For more information:
Listen to this podcast or read this article
For someone to talk to confidentially:
Family Planning Australia Talkline 1300 658 886
Kids Help Line – 1800 551 800 (available 24 hours)
Lifeline Australia – 13 11 14 (available 24 hours)
Mensline Australia – Men and Boys support 1300 78 99 78 (available 24 hours)
NSW Rape Crisis Centre – Sexual assault support 1800 424 017 (available 24 hours)Relationships Australia – 1300 364 277
